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Natural Awakenings SE North Carolina &  Serving Greater Myrtle Beach

Self-Care Time

May 01, 2019 12:40PM
by Lisa Ann

Let’s face it ladies, we are awesome. We are daughters, sisters, wives, mothers, friends, employees, business owners and volunteers, founders of organizations and on and on. We are compassionate, loving, caring, strong, courageous, powerful and determined. We can juggle a million things, be there for everyone that needs us and still get everything in our daily lives done (most of the time). I have found there’s one thing almost every woman I meet is not good at. That one thing is self-care.

When asking clients, “When is the last time you did something just for you?” I usually receive a blank stare back. I’m aware that in their minds they are going through the days, weeks and months trying to think of the last time they actually did something for themselves. It’s so funny how we can find the time to do everything for everyone else, but we just can’t seem to find time to take care of ourselves. How many times have you dropped everything to help someone you love? However, when it comes to something you need you are like, “Ah, I will get to that later.” Even more interesting is when I ask clients, “What is the number one thing you want for the people you care about?” the answer is always the same. They want the people they care about to be happy. Yet we constantly put our happiness on hold. Why is it that we can find the time for everyone else, but we can’t make time for ourselves? What is the secret to finding time for self-care? Self-care is necessary for our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health.

The truth is we can spend hours and hours reviewing where all our time is going, sorting
through our past, examining our belief systems and all the traumas in our lives but it honestly all comes down to one simple thing. The secret is you must feel deserving. You must feel deserving of saying no when you don’t want to do something, of setting boundaries, of putting yourself first and not believing that makes you a bad person, of having what you truly want and not thinking that by getting what you want you are somehow taking something away from someone else or believing everyone else’s needs are more important than yours.

Think about the glass half-full, glass half-empty philosophy. There’s another glass no one talks about—the empty glass—that happens when we are constantly doing everything for everyone else and not taking time for some self-care. Eventually our glass becomes empty and then we have nothing left to give to those people we love and care so much about.

The funny thing about self-care, it’s not only about you. You’ll find that when you start feeling deserving and putting yourself first, some wonderfully amazing things will happen. You’ll feel great, have more energy, think more clearly and be a lot happier. Your glass will stay full which will allow you to actually give more to those around you. You’ll actually be giving others permission to put themselves first. Those around you will start scheduling more self-care for themselves and on and on. You’ll lead by example by changing the world one person at a time just by feeling deserving and making time for that self-care. Go you!

If you aren’t feeling so deserving at the moment and self-care is lacking from your daily routine, the great news is you can start immediately. You have the answer right in front of you. As you flip or click through the pages of this extraordinary natural health and holistic magazine, you’ll find wonderfully gifted practitioners, spectacular places, unique products and incredible classes and events all dedicated to helping you to be the best you that you can be. Pages of people, places and modalities giving you tips to reduce stress, find like-minded people, connect with your true authentic self and get guidance in addressing specific health issues or concerns. What better time to make a commitment to yourself. All you need to do is take these three simple steps:

1. Remind yourself that you are deserving
2. Schedule some self-care time (pencil yourself in right now)
3. Put yourself on the top of the list and set your boundaries

So let’s go ladies! Take out your calendar right now and start scheduling some self-care time And remember you are awesome, you are deserving and you are empowering others to be just as awesome with every minute you dedicate to your own self-care.

Psychic Lisa Ann has been in the holistic field for more than 25 years and is proudly celebrating her 20-year anniversary as the owner and founder of Spiritquest. She’s a former TV and radio show host; published author of two books No Phones in Heaven and Past Lives-Have I Been Here Before; creator of her own series of three guided meditation CDs; her own line of essential oils called Spiritscents; and a Psychic Medium, Intuitive Healer, Reiki Master, Certified Life Coach, teacher and speaker. For more information, visit SpiritquestNC.com.